We came across a fantastic week that was doing a review on our site, called beyondblackwhite.com. It’s a witty blog that deals with all sorts of current issues, from dating to fashion to race relations, and everything in between. One article in particular caught my eye. It reminded me of our first blog post written by site co-founder, hubby, Josh Black. I will also soon be posting a series of youtube videos regarding the very same topic- the “make it or break it” profile photo! Here are Christelyn’s thoughts on the subject re-posted here with the permission BeyondBlackWhite.com site owner/writer Cristelyn Karazin. Pull up a chair, and let us know what you think, oh and as far as I’m concerned, this advice definitely applies to the fellas, as well!
Want Men to Bite Dating Online? Stop Taking Those Cheesy Self-Protraits in Your Bathroom Mirror. by Christelyn Karazin of BeyondBlackWhite.com
As I continue to hear the lamenting of women striking out online, after bearing themselves through volumes and volumes of written copy about how they love long walks on the beach, sunsets and museums, with no luck of reeling in Mr. Big Fish, I figured it was time for me to speak up.
Here’s a tip, and I’m being completely serious: If your picture is HAWT, you can write that you pick your nose, ( …) and pee in the shower and you’ll STILL get a boatload of potential suitors.
Why you ask, fellow pee-er in the shower? Men. Are. Visual. You could write all about your fluency of five languages, world travel, how you’ve discovered that the cure for cancer could be found in an ingredient in a sweet potato, BUT, if you have a crappy bathroom-mirror picture, full of shadows and white eye make-up, don’t be surprised if Mr. Big Fish doesn’t bite.
If you’re serious about your presentation, you need to get a GOOD picture. I mean, like a professional one. And no–you don’t have to pose topless with only a boa, but you need an artist who can look at you objectively and work the lighting and position so you look YOUR BEST SELF. Ming Gregory, CEO of Colorblind International, the interracial match-maker you heard here yesterday, agrees COMPLETELY. She tells her clients to get professional pictures and how the best visual presentation gives the best odds, and some of them balk and say silly things like “Well he should just like me for me!”
Well then girl, date a blind man.
Take me. I about grew a second head when my writing partner said we need to get professional pictures done, AND THEN told me how much money it would be. It was not cheap. But there was no question that a picture of me like this:
Got me more friends on Facebook, more radio spots, more interest (mostly uninvited cuz’ I’s married) than a picture like this:
This WAS taken in my bathroom, but at least I got someone else to take it!
I sometimes can’t believe that chick with the braids is me. The photographer brought out a sensual me, the kind of picture men find…urhm….stimulating, if you get my drift. It’s classy AND sexy, the make-up is done to perfection and the lighting all worked to make me almost not recognize me. The second picture, which I also think is good, is the “mommy me.” It’s day-to-day and could easily blend into the virtual stable of online singles (if I were one) to choose from. The first picture, if I do say so myself, is definitely more eye-catching to men.
And that’s the objective, right? Catch their eye, THEN catch their heart. Most of the time, it goes in that order.
Now go find a photographer. But please for the love of all things wholly, don’t go to Wal*Mart.
P.S. Go to the MAC counter before your pictures and let them do your make-up for free, then go get those shots.
End of Article. Thanks Christelyn!
*So in closing, even if you can’t “splurge” for professional photos right now (always good to have on hand anyway for various reasons and endeavors)- you CAN put on a flattering outfit, make yourself well-groomed, and get some GOOD LIGHTING, and a GOOD FRIEND to take some photos representing your best self! DO feel free to email me if you need advice and/or recommendations. I definitely look forward to helping you find the ONE already! To bliss, CT